The Key to great (Un)happyiness and great Deppression

For everyone who wants to be (un)happy, here’s how to do it. 

I observed my colleagues, friends, TV, surroundings, myself and i analyzed all of us, what is the difference between successful happy people and unhappy people and i make my decision; to live a happy life. So i write what I'm not going to do/be.

The best way to get truly unhappy; is to life self-centered. That means;

- Try always to outsmart people, to make them to serve me and my needs, so i look great. That are people who see themselves as the center of the world, they have always bad days, and they work always with dump people and talk negative about others to feel/be great. They make the people around them look dump & little to be great or try to change them, instead working on themself. By the way it’s a sign of a low self-value complex.

- Try to avoid problems. Live by other people opinions and try to stay grey. Only eat, sleep, work, party, little fun, TV, avoid procrastination and stay in your comfort zone.

- Complain and tell where ever you can how hard your kife is, how bad you feel, how unfair you've been treated, how poor you are and so on. Prove everybody you're a victim and get their cheap compassion.

 

- Think and life all day in your yesterday or tomorow defeats, problems, failures and weaknesses. That is also very hard, when people didn’t train their mind to only focus on the positive things. Instead of sitting around and stay defeated, search for a solution. Every defeat holds a winning inside of it, when you find it and take it. For example; Edison he failed over thousand times with his Light and finally years later he got it. When he looked back he said i found over 1000 ways how it not works. So a lot people, i have an area too, life in their defeats of yesterday and don’t see the positive side of it or fear to step over it. 

So it is with weaknesses and problems, if you want to lose a battle/Fight/Money/Life/Game/Client/Partner/focus/Goal than focus on the weakness or problem and i assure you for hundred percent you gonna lose it.

 - Focus all the time on the bad things in life, people, world, country, project and judge it with your opinion. That are wise people, the think they know everything, they would never admit themselves that they know everything, but when you listen to them the impression comes automatically they have to rule the world and they are so smart. They can tell you what the neighbor does wrong, prove the president is a fool, the boss has no clue and they talk, talk and talk negatively. So these critics surround themselves with negativity and after a while people have to run away from them.

- Life in negative feelings, thoughts and do what you don't love. For example; make a test and go out in the morning and look the people in their faces. It is very sad to see how sad & worried people look, i know a lot of them still sleeping, thinking of the bad job, feeling tired from yesterday or whatever it is and it’s rare to find someone happy. A lot depends for example how you start your day, so get up in the morning and the first thing you do is complain, cry you want more sleep or bump your toe on the bed and scream in anger. Say something bad about you in the mirror. Than think of your bad job, bad boss, how they steel your nerves, money and time, than make on some music with heartbroken songs or the TV with fresh Gossip or problems and start your day convinced you're a victim. With this Technique you have a bad, hard and long day for sure, with lot of self-pity and victim moments.

I hope you see that unhappiness comes from egoisms, complaining’s and unthankfulness. It pulls self-pity, victim mentality, destroys happiness and finally brings people into depression. So the Doc gives them the legendary blue pills to live somehow through the day with yourself. 

Now you can ask, what can i do to be happy? Here's a short list;

+ Try today to help other people around you. Make compliments to raise their mode, make them big, by telling what they done good and how precious they are, say thank you, smile, help them to win with you and try to make someone’s day/life better, if its possible for a second.

+ Start your day with great feelings and thoughts, especially a bad rainy cloudy dark stress day. Smile in the morning to yourself and to the new day, pray to God, make good feel music and dance, read a success story, make plans to achieve something big today or help someone, think how to help the boss, give a flower to your loved ones. 

+ Be thankful, for; you still breathing today, your heart is still pumping, your legs, arms, Eyes, Head is intact, you have a work, House, apartment, driving car, bread on the table, peace, have a family, and you can be thankful all day long. Do it daily, say it to God and to yourself. That is a major weapon to be happy.

                                                   

+ Focus on the positive in people, projects, Goal, Partner, business, work and yourself but when you see something negative solve that problem, not by gossip talk and judgment. Don’t judge even if you can’t change it. 

+ Focus always on your strong sides. When you have a Project/Goal/Partner or Client focus on the good things or how to do/solve it great. When there is a known weakness focus on how to turn it into your strong side.

I wish it helps you to life a happy Life from now on. Hope nobody takes the key for an unhappy life serious. 

Greetz from Viktorious